Blair Motivation

My best friend has a lot of guys that like her but I don’t have any. It brings me down because I wonder why nobody likes me?

-lonely girl

Dear Lonely Girl,

It doesn’t necessarily mean no one likes you. Someone may fancy you, but be too shy to approach you. If you like someone, say “hi” to them. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them. Go out on a limb. Don’t wait for them to talk to you first because, odds are, they’re waiting for the same thing. If you don’t like anyone and you just want a boyfriend, don’t worry about it. You’re young and you probably just haven’t found the right person. Don’t focus all your attention on your friend’s life because that’ll only make you unhappy. Focus on yourself and creating your own image that’s not based on the amount of boyfriends you have or haven’t had.



I’ve been eating healthier and exercising a lot. People tell me that I look good, but I still feel like the same person that I was before- unhappy and unhealthy. What do I do?

-Workout Girl

Dear Workout Girl,

You can start by ignoring that little voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough. You may feel this way because you’re used to looking at yourself everyday in the mirror. Once you grow accustomed to your image, the change may not be evident, but that’s not what matters. What matters is that you’re truly healthy and you’re trying your best. If you’re feeling insecure about yourself, take another look in the mirror and look a little closer, stare a little longer, because you’re missing something beautiful.



I have this really smart friend who’s always number one and no matter how hard I try, I never seem to do better. I envy her because she doesn’t even have to try. She’s just that good. What can I do to make myself smarter?


Dear C,

First, don’t try to outdo your friend. You should always will the best for a person, especially if they’re your friend.  Second, just because a person does better than you doesn’t mean you’re not smart either. There will always be someone smarter than you and smarter than her. You two just grasp ideas differently. If you really want to become smarter, then keep your head up and try again. If that doesn’t work, keep trying. Whining about how smart your friend is will not get you anywhere. You can even try studying together if you want to boost up your grades. Just remember that being first place isn’t everything. It’s about fully being able to grasp the concept and learning something from it.


 How do I motivate myself to lose weight? -Anon.

Dear Anon,

First, don’t set a drastic weight goal for yourself in the beginning. Setting a weight goal so different from your current weight may seem impossible in the beginning, causing you to lose hope and confidence in yourself. Set a reasonable goal and once you reach it, you can choose whether you want to increase that goal. Secondly, change your eating habits and adjust your meal schedule. Search up healthy foods that will boost your metabolism and eat appropriate portions. Aside from eating healthily, you should try working out at least 30 minutes everyday and increase from there. It may seem difficult at first, but it takes 21 days to break a habit. You can do it!


 How do I motivate myself to move on from a guy I’ve been pining on for the longest time? -Shy Girl

Dear Shy Girl,

Don’t force yourself to move on because that may only result in you thinking about him even more. It’s like the first time you started liking this guy. You didn’t force yourself to like him, I hope. It started out slowly and naturally. That’s how it should end. It’s almost impossible to force yourself to get over someone you’ve liked for a while now, so don’t try it. Find some other things or people to divert your attention to and you’ll find that he’s not on your mind as much because you have other sources of happiness. Do what you love and soon enough, you’ll realize that your feelings have completely been obliterated.


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